The TED Talk I watched about why people choose to stay in abusive relationships made me change the way I viewed Daisy’s situation with Tom. The speaker, Leslie Morgan Steiner, came from a history of abuse and this gave her speech a great deal of perspective. The one thing that stuck with me was how she explained that she didn’t realize her partner was abusing her, and she saw it as her being in love with a deeply troubled man. Daisy continued to love Tom even though he hurt her, and much like the speaker, she probably didn’t see it the same way everyone else did. Daisy confronts Tom after he has hurt her that she knew he didn’t mean to do it and it was her fault for marrying a brute of a man (Fitzgerald 12). Daisy does not realize that Tom is intentionally abusing her and because she loves him so much, she tries to direct the blame to herself instead. Additionally, the speaker brought up the point that it’s hard for victims to leave because their partner has convinced them that they are in love. This is clearly evident in the section where Tom is arguing with Gatsby about who Daisy was truly in love with. Tom coercively assures Daisy that she has never loved and doesn’t love anyone but him (Fitzgerald 132). In this way, Tom has convinced Daisy that they are madly in love and made it even more difficult for her to leave. This TED Talk changed my view on abusive relationships in that they are not at all easy to avoid and they should be exposed and not hidden behind the illusive American dream of perfect love.